Apparently my director went to see a production of West Side Story a few years ago, and the guy playing Chino forgot his gun before coming out for his final scene. Once it got to the big scene where he is supposed to shoot Tony, he screeched “Poison Boots” and kicked the actor playing Tony until he went down. The girl playing Maria then had to jerk the shoe off of Chino’s foot, and had to do the gunshot scene asking “How many kicks Chino? How many kicks, and one kick left for me”.
Kit. 21. Christian. Androgyne. Grey-Androsexual-ish. Anxious. uOttawa student.
Pronouns = singular they.
The food might be bad and the beds might be hard, but at least we're living our own lives.
Margaery Tyrell flirting with chicks at her own wedding, and continuing to be a true inspiration to us all
i appreciate that ending a sentence with a preposition is generally regarded as poor form but
sometimes rearranging your sentence to avoid that actually just makes it more confusing
this is a squirrel feeder and it’s possibly the best thing i’ve ever seen
This is the Memorial to the Missing and contains over 50,000,000 pennies to represent the lives of each American child abandoned to abortion by a society and a culture that has embraced their destruction. We must prevent the need to add to this memorial. Take a stand. Get involved.
”How we treat the least of us defines us.”
"should I use this $500k to help struggling parents and pregnant people or should I put it in a glass box"
i have finished my takehome
i don’t even care if its awful i get to go to sleeeeeeep
and then hand in the paper tomorrow and then rest and then buy groceries and maybe do some homework and then wednesday more homework and THEN I GET TO SEE MADO AND WE ARE GONNA PLOT PLOT PLOT and have a grand old time really
IT’S IN ENGLISH! I GET IT NOW!
Being an extrovert is when your primary source of emotional validation and strength-gathering is from other people, rather than internal. Basically, when you’re 3000% done, do you desperately want to be around others to recharge, or do you want to be alone? Just as introverts are often unfairly stereotyped as shy, socially awkward, nerdy, standoffish, etc, extroverts are often unfairly stereotyped as shallow, ‘party girls/boys,’ loud, aggressive, or attention-seeking. The fact is, you can be a shy, awkward extrovert with social anxiety who loves books and haiku poetry and never wears makeup, and you can be a flirty, socially adept, confident, fashion-obsessed hipster introvert who never misses a party.
But when it gets into self-care, especially on Tumblr, most of the advice out there is written with the assumption that the person has introvert tendencies, and that can be really hard for extroverts who are struggling. When that well-intentioned post for how to deal with a depressive episode, panic attack, or the urge to self-harm is essentially a list of ways to isolate yourself and create a personal bubble, the extrovert is left wondering why the thing that was supposed to help instead is making them feel even worse, and can sometimes even think that they must be extra fucked up and maybe beyond help or not able to “even do this right.”
Obviously, there is no such thing as one-size-fits-all self-help advice, but speaking as an extrovert with mental illness (PTSD, paranoid schizophrenia, and situational depression, for the record) these are some things that I’ve found to help that may go against the traditional mold for when you Need Human and your social circle is, for whatever reason, not a good option at that moment:
- Know your IHOP.
And your Denny’s, your Waffle House, your Dunkin Donuts, your WalMart, and any other 24 hour establishments. If you’re feeling desperately lonely at 4am, just going out to one of these places and seeing other humans also up and doing things can be a world of help. Even if you’re broke, they’re usually super understanding if you just say “I can’t afford anything right now, but I couldn’t bear being alone at home any longer, I’m having a hard night.” EVEN BETTER: Use social media to connect with someone else, and do a challenge together, like a who-can-snapchat-them-all-first scavenger hunt for 10 pink things that start with vowels.
- Social media is your best fucking friend.
Tumblr, Skype, Snapchat, Twitter, Facebook…you can always find someone who’s awake and bored. If by some freak of timezones, no one’s on, take a quirky question or a list of interests to Omegle and give it a whirl. And remember, if it’s a stranger, it doesn’t matter that today you just could not find a single fuck to give for showering.
- Talk out loud.
Seriously, just not being silent makes such a difference. Sing along with music if you feel too self-conscious, or read a book out loud to yourself and act out the parts.
- Learn something off a You-Tube video.
Choose one of the ones where the youtuber is talking directly to the camera, and one where you have to do along with or talk back. Your lizard brain is stupid, and that can do wonders for a feeling of perceived interaction. This is even better if it’s something that involves you physically or emotionally, like dance or sign language or a magic trick.
- Make something for someone
If you just don’t feel like you can do the communication thing but you need the human thing, pick a person - whether someone you know well or a random act - and make them something special. Write them a fic, draw them a picture, make them a video, write them a letter…pour your heart into it. It’s an act of connection, and it can be a huge help when you don’t have the spoons for Real Human.
- You don’t have to earn it…but don’t steal it
There is no reason to feel guilty for needing/wanting attention or human contact. You don’t have to “deserve” it, you’re not bad for it, you’re not an “attention whore” or “drama queen.” It’s ok to be honest and say “I need someone to pay attention to me.” What’s not ok is to lie about something to get that attention…which ironically, often comes from the belief that you’re only worth it if you’re either the victim of a tragedy or hero of an epic.
- Safety first, especially if sex is involved
Obviously, your mom was wrong about the internet being nothing but 40 year old pedophile ax murderers, and there’s actually nothing wrong if consenting adults enjoy casual sex as a form of human contact, but don’t be stupid about it. Let people know where you are. Meet internet people in public places. Trust your gut. Keep your phone with you. Watch your drinks. Have a way to get home on your own. And you always, always, always, always, always have the right to say no and have that matter. Even if you put up an ad on Craigs List saying you wanted to fuck the first human to show up at the 3rd street Wendys wearing a blue carnation, you can always say no.
- Respect other people’s boundaries
If a friend - especially an introvert friend - has set limits on contact with them, respect those unless it’s a true emergency. If you’re suicidal, oh hell yes call your best friend no matter what. But if you’re just feeling bored and lonely and they’ve said they’re at a family event/have a test in the morning/aren’t feeling like humaning right now, use one of the other coping methods. Likewise if they’ve said they don’t want to talk about X topic.
- It doesn’t have to be about you
It can be really easy for extroverts to wind up bullying and bulldozing without meaning to. Extroversion does not have to mean narcissism. Again, this often comes from the perception that we have to “earn” attention, so we PERFORM like Rachel Berry living in the Big Brother house with a meth habit…and panic and feel like we’re going to be alone forever if we don’t dazzle constantly. Stop. Even when people are your oxygen, you can’t breathe in unless you stop talking. LISTEN to someone else. Try it. Ask them to tell you THEIR story, show you THEIR thing. It’s so much more fulfilling than trying to spin another routine just to get a smile.
- Show your colors
Wear things that reflect your interests if possible, even if that’s just a TARDIS phone case, a Coffee Snob sticker on your laptop, or a pair of Devil’s trap earrings. These kinds of things are super awesome conversation starters, and help you find friends you would otherwise never have discovered. It also helps incredibly with the sense of just being connected to other people when you walk through the grocery store and someone grins and flashes you a Vulcan salute because you’ve got a Star Trek bag.
- Don’t be afraid of micro-interactions
Not everything has to be a soul bond. Extroverts are often looking so hard for CONNECTION that they miss connections. Make a conscious effort to see the people around you. Start small talk in the checkout line. Call the cashier by name. Compliment a total stranger’s awesome umbrella. Roll down your car window and yell “that’s my favorite song!” when you hear it on someone’s stereo at a red light. Tell the random passerby you love their shoes. They’re only in your life for a split second, but it’s like saving your pocket change. Those nickles and dimes add up, and somehow you wind up able to afford all kinds of awesome stuff.
Find something that suits you - tutoring, helping at an animal shelter, a food bank, blood drive, hotline, whatever - and set up a regular volunteering schedule. No matter what, you’ll know that at X time on X day, you’re going to get positive interaction, and that can get you through some really shitty times…plus, because it’s volunteer work for a good cause and not a club or fun thing, you’re more likely to still do it even if you’re having a bad time with self-esteem or feeling like you don’t “deserve friends”, and it’ll make you feel better about yourself.